Posted by Tamar on May 14, 2005, at 17:00:20
In reply to Has Anyone Ever Got Cured Fully?, posted by pinkeye on May 14, 2005, at 16:26:38
I think the answer to your question depends on your expectations. I stopped seeing my T two months ago, and most of the time I don’t feel depressed any more. There are times when I feel down, but I’m able to cope with it so much better than before.
But I definitely found it got harder before it got easier. When I was very depressed I was numb and just didn’t feel very much. When I was in therapy I felt everything, and most of it hurt.
Talking about painful things from my past was certainly very difficult, and even now some of it is still painful. I’m just better able to manage the pain now without becoming seriously depressed.
Therapy can’t change the past and it can’t make all the pain go away. But it can help us understand where the pain came from and how it’s affecting us now. And instead of denying and minimising these horrible experiences we can begin to acknowledge the pain and start to deal with it.
> IS there any point in doing all these regression therapy? Has any one ever got anything by looking back, and understanding and has anyone been able to change the deepest fears and hurt and stuff?
Yes and no. I can’t change what happened, but I have been able to change how I deal with it. It still hurts, but it’s no longer unbearable.
> Any inputs? Should I continue to dig deeper or "close the grave" - so to speak and move on? I think I may not have too much time here as well - maybe 2 more months of therapy.. Wonder what is the right time to start moving on?
It seems to me as if you’ve been making a lot of progress. I know it’s hard at the moment, but it will get easier. I don’t think you should give up at this point.
> My T keeps digging more and more - and it is making me very less functional in my job, and I am extremely scared most of the times. I have lot of fear about health, money, relationships, etc, and it is all coming back.
I think the fears probably won’t go away if you stop doing therapy. But I think you should talk to your T about how to keep functioning in your job and in everyday life, because it can be very difficult.
I hope it starts to get easier for you soon.
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