Posted by alexandra_k on May 12, 2005, at 22:41:19
In reply to I annoy my T, posted by namaste on May 12, 2005, at 21:37:57
> I am confused. i thought Ts have unconditional positive regard?
Hmm.
If God was a therapist, perhaps...
They are only human.
It is a human response to feel annoyed sometimes.
But therapists should know enough about emotional responses so that they manage to refrain from judging you or blaming you for their emotional responses.>I am annoying I guess sometimes
Just because your t feels annoyed with you doesn't mean that you are annoying.
Maybe what you are picking up on is that she is blaming or judging you for her feelings? She shouldn't be doing that...
OTOH there are some behaviours that most people find annoying. It is probably useful to learn what those things are. Then one has a choice whether one wants to (a) continue the behaviours and accept the fact that most people will feel annoyed in response. or (b) choose to change the behaviour.
But that is YOUR choice
Not hers.I'm just trying to say that sometimes it might be useful (theraputic) for a t to show the client that they feel annoyed.
But the judging / blaming part is just not fair.
They should be above that.
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