Posted by pinkeye on May 5, 2005, at 13:44:49
In reply to Re: Something that interests me., posted by happyflower on May 5, 2005, at 0:27:17
I used to think like that too. That is all real and all this talk of transference is all bull.
But now I think it is actually part of both. Some transference, and some real. Just because you don't know the person fully - the therapist knows you fully, but you don't know anything about the therapist.. So you tend to make stuff out of the person as you wish. It is like a blind person trying to figure out an elephant - heard that story? It is precisely like that. All those features are probably part of the therapist - the caring, and sensitive side, which is what gets exposed to us during the sessions. But the therapist could have other personalities that you probably don't like.
It is actually kind of the same thing that happens in real world also - we don't get exposed to all of a person's personalties at one shot, and usually one person has more control over the relationship than the other. And real life involves a lot of projections as well. But just that it is magnified 1000 times in thearpeutic relationship.
I am a person who fairly knew a good deal about my ex T. Because in my country, therapists don't remain like blank slate, and he disclosed a fair portion of himself to me.. but I knew from other sources also - like my fahter knew who his mother was etc. But even then, I think what I know of him is fairly limited. I do know he is a person with lot of integrity and goodness, but I really don't know what is he like in day to day life. And that is important to know for a real feeling.
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