Posted by tom_traubert on April 30, 2005, at 12:05:18
In reply to Oops » Sarah T., posted by Sarah T. on April 30, 2005, at 0:39:34
I think spite is possible the pinnacle of passive-aggressive behavior. They can't tell you what's wrong, or how they feel they've been wronged at the time they feel it, so they perform some action to SHOW you how you can go to hell.
They are also probably projecting way way too much onto your actions and intentions and want you to feel guilty for it. What a waste of time. I think the best way to defuse this person is to confront them every time you think they're trying to spite you, asking "Did I upset you in some way?" but then if the person is really f-d up theyll just say no and want to spite you even more for confronting them. Who knows?
Again, what a waste of time
tt
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