Posted by daisym on April 26, 2005, at 23:07:48
In reply to Recent threads combined.... need feedback, posted by LittleGirlLost on April 26, 2005, at 13:39:27
My therapist would want you to be honest about how you are feeling. "Everything goes in here" is one of his favorite sayings. We recently talked about how much I cared about him (did not use the word love) and how surprised I was by that and how wrong it felt. I've admitted to being very attached for awhile. He asked me why I had been separating "caring" from "attached" -- I think I was worried, as you are, about how the word would be received. We had sort of an intense discussion about how scary it is to care for someone and the risks you must take.
As far as wanting to be hugged or held, those feelings are powerful sometimes, aren't they? I've said more than once, "I'd really like to hug you but if you come near me, I'll bolt." It is the little kid parts of me that are yearning for that kind of comfort. I find this to be really true after sharing some intense memory.
Everytime I find the courage to talk about these feelings, I find that the relationship deepens and I get the tiniest bit more comfortable with the idea that he cares about me too.
I hope you have the same experience.
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