Posted by Pfinstegg on April 8, 2005, at 23:52:08
In reply to Re: I tried. » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on April 8, 2005, at 21:41:22
My analyst recently said that one could look at analysis in many ways, and on a number of levels, but that one way to look at it was that the patient and analyst discover and work through a series of interpersonal problems- the problems being the ones the patient brings from childhood and transfers onto the analyst. On the analyst's side, they have to be very aware of the transferences, and their own countertransferences, keep good control of those, and yet be emotionally involved and genuinely interactive in order to permit the patient to grow and change. Even though interaction is wonderful, it seems to me that feeling that you have to watch out for your therapist's feelings and reactions prevents you from feeling safe enough to concentrate solely on you and your side of the relationship. I don't think you're supposed to do more than that.
Have you ever had a stretch of time where you were able to forget about his feelings and just let him take care of himself, and where you could concentrate just on you and your part in the relationship?
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