Posted by daisym on April 8, 2005, at 21:08:38
In reply to Re: Recipe for disaster? long » daisym, posted by pinkeye on April 8, 2005, at 20:22:19
I think the intensity of the feelings that come up for most people during therapy almost guarantee at one point or another that they will get sexualized. Fantasies and dreams occur, in the very least. Good therapists know this, work with it and help the client gain perspective and ease the pain. It is hard, but THERAPY is hard. The issues are painful, working it all out is painful so sometimes the relationship is painful. I think it gets most painful when the feelings are kept a secret. Then you suffer alone.
I think we all wish our SOs would listen to us the way our therapists do. But I've heard stories here about therapists as husbands, or wives, and they behave as humans, not as therapists.
It feels like there is a lot of fear in your post about attachments being hurtful. They aren't all...something I'm learning slowly.
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