Posted by fallsfall on April 8, 2005, at 18:19:29
In reply to Re: We had a fight » fallsfall, posted by All Done on April 8, 2005, at 15:39:21
> He's reminding me a lot of my mom and that is enough therapy fodder for a lifetime. :(
*** Gee, my therapist is like my father....
> **How could anyone's requirements not include knowing what's the correct way, though? I mean, I understand if there are two correct ways of doing something, we may choose different ways, but to me, this is like 2 + 2. It only equals 4 (and you, falls, can't tell me it doesn't ;)). Do I have to learn to accept that he thinks it's 5 only because he won't look in the d*mn book for the answer?
*** Ah, but if the question is what is 1/2 + 1/2, the answer could be either 2/2 or 1. Both are correct, but depending on your viewpoint, either could also be incorrect.
*** So, your question for him is whether his "5" is really another name for your "4", or if they are materially different. If, for instance, his world says to round the number down to the next lowest even number, then his "5" *IS* your "4".
*** Of course, it is also possible that he thinks the answer is 5 and he is *wrong*. What you are asking is for him to check his answer, and if he still thinks it is right for him to explain to you why it is right.
*** My (belabored) point is that things aren't quite as simple as they seem.
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> Thanks, falls. I know there's all kinds of interesting stuff inside me that's coming out because of this. I just wish we could get the details ironed out and then we can discuss how it made me feel to our little hearts content.
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> Take care,
> Laurie*** Unfortunately, I think you have to talk about how it makes you feel *before* the details are worked out. The immediacy of the issue seems to make the emotions clearer.
(((((Laurie)))))
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