Posted by All Done on April 7, 2005, at 2:13:56
My T and I had a fight today. At least, I think it was a fight. I can probably count the number of people I've ever fought with on one hand and I might not even have to use my thumb and pinky.
We were talking about how I feel disconnected to him and the possible reasons why. Insurance "just happened" to come up as one of the reasons. Hmm. Go figure.
Anyway, he hasn't called the insurance company or even looked at his contract. I don't believe he should be trying to tell me he is right until he has the facts straight. At this point, I don't even care if he is right or not. Just don't try to argue with me when I know more about it than you. You know?
Okay - serious potential for me to ramble here, I see. Let me try again.
I told him I was pissed.
I've discovered his "nervous laugh" (or whatever it is) irritates me when I see it too frequently within one session.
He's arguing that 1. we (he and I) had a contract prior to the insurance stuff, 2. the insurance company can't tell him what to bill, and 3. the fact that he's in private practice is first and foremost. The fact that he's an insurance provider is secondary.
I'm arguing that 1. I agreed to his fee not knowing he was an insurance provider, 2. the insurance company can tell him what to bill because he signed a contract with them, and 3. the fact that I'm an insurance policy holder is first and foremost. The fact that he's in private practice is secondary.We're going to get nowhere fast.
But, he told me he intends to read his contract before the next time we meet.
When I was leaving, I asked him if he was mad at me. This is a huge issue for me - I constantly worry that people are mad at me and I can't stand it when I think or know that they are. He laughed nervously (ugh) and I said, "forget it, I don't want to know." He said, "no. It's a good question we can talk about when we have more time."
Enough of the "therapeutic opportunity" BS. Just get an answer and let's move on. I'll talk about it all he wants after we come to some sort of informed agreement.
Oh, and at one point he made a seemingly casual comment like, "the insurance company my terminate my contract or I may terminate it." I told him that felt like a threat.
So much for keeping this short and concise. Sorry - I know I've repeated a lot of the issue. Just needed to get it off my chest, I guess.
Thanks for listening.
Laurie
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