Posted by mair on April 7, 2005, at 13:17:46
In reply to talking about it, posted by Daisym on April 7, 2005, at 10:34:05
What your T seems to be doing would not sit well with me. I started thinking about my T entirely apart from anything I ever remember her saying. Both my T and my pdoc have let me know that children of people who commit suicide never really get over it at all - but I don't think even those were unsolicited guilt trip type comments. That information was probably imparted because I've frequently raised my children as being impediments to killing myself. Now when I think of them I don't just think about the effect of me not being around, but I also think about them having to deal with a suicide, and the possibility that they may feel responsible for it. (for awhile I came up with the idea of killing myself in a sufficiently awful car accident so they didn't have to deal with the suicide stigma)
So I guess the long answer is that I haven't discussed with my T the types of things you have with yours because, to my recollection, she's never approached it in the way yours has. She did spend several sessions a few years ago trying to convince me to check myself into a hospital and she raised it again very briefly last week. I've always been very resistant. However, her raising this issue (a few years ago) led to some very productive discussions about suicide and about my discomfort contacting her and helped her, I think, to understand when she has to consider me at risk and when she doesn't, and also helped me to accept that I could reach out to her.
mair
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