Posted by sunny10 on April 6, 2005, at 10:37:04
In reply to Borderline, devaluating loved ones..., posted by NightStar72 on April 6, 2005, at 4:22:08
good heavens, but you learn so much faster than me!!! Took me a LONG time to wrap my head around that one... yes, I've done it. My particular trigger was fear. Fear of abandonment to be precise... They can't hurt YOU if you already hurt THEM, now can they? was MY dysfunctional rationalization... Maybe that feels familiar for you, too?
Mainly I am trying to deal with the fact that the fear is in my head, from childhood, and I am TRYING to work on "logical" ways to get those fears out of my head...
Definitely do some work with your T to get to the bottom of YOUR trigger for this; and the practical help regarding "relapses" to strengthen your relationships. You are figuring out this stuff so much faster than me, maybe you can tell me what works for you!
I'm not much help on this one, but I did definitely want you to know that you are not alone. Emphatically NOT alone....
-sunny10
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