Posted by Tamar on April 5, 2005, at 21:22:34
In reply to Enough of it., posted by pinkeye on April 5, 2005, at 19:24:57
It's hard to try not to hang onto someone you love (I don't know if you love your ex-T but many people do, including me).
Eventually you will be able to let go. But it may come slowly and naturally, instead of by your effort in trying to let go. Perhaps you might be trying too hard to let go and so it's harder for you than it needs to be.
Is there a middle ground between torturing yourself about how he might have felt and trying hard to let him go? I imagine that middle ground involves acknowledging the pain of never knowing who he really is and how he really felt about you. I think that pain lasts a very long time. And maybe experiencing the pain is part of a wider process of learning to cope with the pain of all kinds of other losses.
Now, if I could only apply this to myself :)
I wish you peace.
Tamar
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