Posted by All Done on March 20, 2005, at 12:38:17
In reply to More money stuff :(, posted by All Done on March 15, 2005, at 10:17:53
I don't exactly know where to begin. It was a quick hour but a packed hour.
I tried to explain things very matter of factly. Didn't work so well as I was fidgeting and tense, but I think I got my point across. I told him what the insurance company was telling me. His first instinct was to say that the insurance company can't tell him what to charge. I told him I thought maybe they could because of his contract. He also kept mentioning the fact that we (him and I) had/have an arrangement we already agreed upon. Well, I told him I agreed to that not even knowing he was a provider with my insurance company. He's been a provider since before I met him. Our agreement was made without him telling me he was a provider. Anyway, I just kept asking him to review his contract and call the insurance company. He's going to do that and we'll talk again.
You might like this falls - The only time he seemed to be flustered about all this was when he made a comment about me being the most informed one in the room and laughed nervously.
Now...all the other stuff. Please know I'm paraphrasing and trying desperately to remember what was said and how it was said.
He thinks working out payment is an important part of therapy and it can open lots of areas for discussion, which it did.
He said making a financial investment in therapy might aid the overall investment in therapy. Thinking about this, though, I get kind of mad. Does he think I'm not invested enough without paying more? Or even paying at all, for that matter? No one is making me go to therapy. And I certainly don't drive an hour and fifteen minutes each way to hear myself talk for an hour.
We talked about how I hated bringing all of this up because it was kind of his stuff. Normally, I can look at someone (anyone but him for that matter) and tell myself that they are just another person, like me. It makes it easier to have things like difficult business conversations or inverviews sometimes. Well, what do you know...I don't put him in the same category with the rest of humanity;). He's a T 24/7 right? He doesn't leave his office ever. I hate even seeing him in the hall. As a matter of fact, I hate knowing that he has clients other than me. He didn't know I felt like this.
We talked about the way I deal(t) with confrontation with others (especially my parents). I will typically put everyone else's needs and wants before mine. Even at my own expense. I mentioned that my mom is NEVER wrong, so I gave up confronting her. I felt like he has a little bit of that attitude. When he started sounding like that is when I told him he needed to talk to the insurance company before we talked about it anymore.
Sheesh! There was more. I just can't think of it right now. I believe we got at least a year's worth session topics out of this one.
Oh. And I paid him $90 when I left.
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