Posted by Shortelise on March 1, 2005, at 18:13:10
In reply to Re: Needing comfort » Shortelise, posted by TamaraJ on March 1, 2005, at 15:24:52
Tamara, I am so lucky. When I talked to my mother last week and she did some of her awful stuff, I got off the phone and went to my husband, told him I needed to yell. We talked for about an hour, and I ranted much of the time, sometimes shouting, about how I feel, what I feel, and why I feel this way.
I cannot confront my mother because she is emotionally incapable of facing herself. She is very fragile emotionally. She can't face the truth, has never been able to, but is completely unaware of it. It would be utterly devastating to her emotionally, and it would be cruel. She's also 73 years old. She is not going to change now. The help I might get from talking with her about these things would be negated by her devastation. I know this from experience.
How I wish I could, though. It's all I can do at times not to shout at her. And I am so afraid of being like her.
Thanks Tamara.
ShortE
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