Posted by Dinah on March 1, 2005, at 2:15:36
In reply to Creating meaning in life for myself, posted by pinkeye on February 28, 2005, at 18:50:11
Yeah.
I think that's one of the many reasons I miss Daddy.
My therapist was trying to get me to call my psychiatrist for meds the other day, and I was trying to get him to say that he wanted me to do it, that it would make him happy. But he thought I was trying to get him to say that he didn't want me to, that he wasn't trying to get rid of me or make it easier for him by medicating me.
What I really meant was that when I feel lousy, I'm not likely to do anything for myself. But I'm more likely to do something to please someone I care about.
It's not that Daddy had enormously high expectations. He had reasonable ones I think. But he also liked to be taken care of. If I took care of him, he was happy and rewarded me by taking care of me too. And I always had the spectre of what to expect if I didn't make him happy by how he treated my mother and brother.
I have to care about the person though, and have some feeling that they care about me.
Is that really so bad?
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