Posted by JLynn on February 21, 2005, at 3:01:11
I've been seeing a T since Nov 03.
My first T was awesome. I felt that she really cared. Then in Aug 04 I found out she was moving to a new state. I was very upset. I felt abandoned. I know this is somewhat normal given the situation, but I have this feeling a lot and don't know why. I wasn't abused or abandoned as a child, but have always searched for someone to be close to like a mother figure. Anyway...a couple weeks after T left I wrote to her. Surprisingly she wrote back. We have been writing ever since, usually about once or twice a month. I am glad, but feel kind of guilty like she just didn't want to tell me she couldn't have any kind of relationship since she wasn't my T. And I also fear that in the future she may decide she doesn't want to continue writing to me. I don't want her to feel guilty either.At first I didn't want to see another T and start over. After I saw her a few times, I like her. She is very funny and encouraging. She seems to hold back though I guess because she doesn't want to encourage me to become attached. My ex and new T worked at the same place. I didn't tell my new T that I talk to the ex T because I know that could be unethical. They keep in touch and she tells me the ex T asks about me, but I don't know if she told her either.
I have a fear of what will happen if/when therapy is over. I would miss my new T and would want to stay in touch, but don't think she would go for it or even how I would bring it up. But I know it will be quite a while as I am still having problems.
Hope this isn't too confusing, but just wanted to get my thoughts about this out. I know other people have these issues to and would be glad to hear any comments on the situation.
poster:JLynn
thread:461147
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