Posted by littleone on February 18, 2005, at 18:21:49
In reply to Sense of Self Redux, posted by mair on February 17, 2005, at 17:04:05
> My T posited a theory that she's never fully verbalized before. She thinks that I draw on her for a more positive view of myself - that I can't generate that positive sense of self on my own, at least not usually.
Hi mair, I'm sure I'm projecting a lot here, but is it perhaps not so much that you need her to generate a positive sense of self for you. But rather that you generate an uncertain sense of self and look to her for confirmation? I'm kind of thinking like a mirroring type of thing, but not exactly.
> I'm not sure whether I should cancel or not. I've never cancelled a session before for anything other than a schedule conflict. I don't know what it would feel like or how she'd respond.
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> Does anyone do this?I've never cancelled unless I had something else I couldn't get out of. But I'm actually seriously considering cancelling the next few sessions. I'm lucky in that I won't have to talk to my T to cancel. He has a secretary I can call. But I could still never tell her why I wasn't going. I'm pretty sure she'd pass it on to my T.
So I'm just saying "I can't make my appointment" so it kind of sounds like maybe a time conflict and I don't have to lie about it. Reframing isn't just a T's perogative.
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