Posted by Daisym on February 17, 2005, at 21:28:41
In reply to Sense of Self Redux, posted by mair on February 17, 2005, at 17:04:05
I've tried to cancel several times because i was anxious about the probable topic or because I was upset with my therapist (or myself). He usually wants to talk about the need to cancel, what I'm feeling about that and why I'm running away. Most of the time I end up going in and we end up discussing it face to face.
I think sharing with your therapist the parts of you that you aren't proud of is a protection against abandonment and shame. You might not need her for your self esteem, but you might need her to like you, which is perfectly understandable. I think it is really hard in any situation to say, "I'm not good at this, or I've failed at that." We all want to put our best foot forward, don't you think?
I think this is a really great topic to explore with her. I hope you go to your next appointment. Take in your post if nothing else to help you get started.
I'm sorry it was so hard.
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