Posted by pinkeye on February 4, 2005, at 12:40:27
In reply to Re: very tired and down, posted by Daisym on February 4, 2005, at 10:32:00
Thanks Daisy. I am not sure it ultimately matters - but I think it will. There is a huge difference for me from being connected to someone I am not attracted to versus being connected to + attracted to the same person. The latter is much more harder to let go of than the former. I would never have the same kind of despair when I leave my current T - it will be fairly painless - I will feel sad definitely at losing an important person in life, but I wonder if it would ever be a relationship for me with her.
<<<<Do you really think this ultimately matters? I think by revealing your inner self and connecting on such a deep level, your spirit and their spirit connect, so physical stuff isn't what you miss when they aren't with you. It is the feeling of safety and acceptance (and care and...) But I totally agree with you about being set up to get hurt. No matter how well the therapy goes, it is supposed to move towards termination, or at least seeing your therapist a lot less, perhaps for "tune ups" now and again. This thought just makes me reel, it scares the bigeebees out of me.
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> My therapist says that you will find that you ease yourself off when it is time. You will feel ready to let go. I'm imagining years and years.
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> I'm sorry you are hurting. I call this "tender grief" -- soft sadness that just pervades everthing. Try to do something nice for yourself.
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> Hugs from me,
> Daisy
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