Posted by Daisym on February 4, 2005, at 10:32:00
In reply to Re: very tired and down, posted by pinkeye on February 3, 2005, at 21:08:04
>>>>>For me also it is extremely hard. I have never been this close to anyone in life and it seems so damn stupid that the only reason you got so close is to be able to let go at somepoint. I would never have gotten into it in the first place if I knew it would end up being so hard. If I had a choice, I would have chosen some 50 something, very ugly looking therapist - so I wouldn't have had any difficulty in letting go. A capable one definitely, but someone I would never even dream of hanging out with after that. Anyway, once you make a mistake you realize it - now I chose a woman in her 45 s to 50. Glad that I chose this way.
<<<<Do you really think this ultimately matters? I think by revealing your inner self and connecting on such a deep level, your spirit and their spirit connect, so physical stuff isn't what you miss when they aren't with you. It is the feeling of safety and acceptance (and care and...) But I totally agree with you about being set up to get hurt. No matter how well the therapy goes, it is supposed to move towards termination, or at least seeing your therapist a lot less, perhaps for "tune ups" now and again. This thought just makes me reel, it scares the bigeebees out of me.
My therapist says that you will find that you ease yourself off when it is time. You will feel ready to let go. I'm imagining years and years.
I'm sorry you are hurting. I call this "tender grief" -- soft sadness that just pervades everthing. Try to do something nice for yourself.
Hugs from me,
Daisy
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