Posted by littleone on February 3, 2005, at 20:58:15
In reply to Re: i feel like dumping my T, posted by ghost on February 3, 2005, at 13:44:02
Wow, your T sounds so cool.
I have *a lot* of trouble talking in my sessions and always have to write heaps to my T. We've been playing cards for the last few months and I find it a little easier to talk if I can focus on the cards instead of on me or him or the carpet or whatever.
I think I'd much rather use a sandtray or crayons or pastels :) I need to think less and feel more.
How about you bring a slip of paper with you to your next session just saying "pastels" or "crayons". I'm sure your T will understand and be accommodating.
I always think my T wishes I'd never rocked up on his doorstep. I have this mental image of him looking in his diary in the morning, seeing my name there and letting out a great big *sigh*. Then I always think that he wants to ditch me, but he can't really because that would just reinforce my beliefs that people don't like me, etc. So he's forced to endure me.
Occasionally I can see that this isn't true. That it's just my head living up to my beliefs. But not often.
Is the same sort of thing happening to you do you think? That you have a certain belief and your head twists things round to prove the belief?
> i think i talk to her easier cuz she's a stranger, really. i can always run away if i think she knows too much.
Please try to stick with her as long as you can. If running away is a pattern for you, it's important to try and stay and work things out and develop a new pattern. Having said that, I do understand where you're coming from. It feels very threatening to stay.
>she has suggestions, but i've never been able to use them. i guess i have to practice or something.
My T often suggests things to problems I'm having. Usually I can see that his suggestions are a good idea, but blowed if I'm gonna do them. Yikes!! Sometimes I'll let the suggestion perculate for a month or two in my head before I even think about maybe possibly trying it.
But even the times there's no way I could follow through on his suggestion, I still think it's good to soak it in and let my mind absorb it. Just think about it. I think that when I do this with enough suggestions, my head gets a little more comfortable with his ideas. Then I need to get comfortable thinking about doing them. Then I guess I'd have to seriously consider doing them. And so on. Baby steps. Jeez, sometimes I think I'm taking ant steps.
> maybe i'll go home and show a pint of tofutti who's boss....
I had to laugh at this! Thanks for my chuckles. Not that I know what tofutti is. A tofu product??? Somehow that doesn't quite compare to ice cream or chocolate :)
And Daisy, what on earth is Cream of Wheat??? Sounds like some sort of porridge or maybe some soggy Weetbix. Give me mud cake any day!
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