Posted by Dinah on January 29, 2005, at 12:30:37
In reply to second date last night....please help, posted by crushedout on January 29, 2005, at 12:08:45
In my experience, no, not really. No one can, not even therapists. And they come closest because they have no real investment.
I'm sorry things didn't go well with your parents. I know that dance only too well. It can be enormously distressing and bring up tons of old hurts.
As far as romance... I don't think I'm in any position to comment. I'm the least romantic person I know. I don't believe in "the one", I believe in "the good enough" to spend the rest of your life with. Then you work hard to make the good enough good enough.
But then I think of my grandparents and how my grandpa looked at my grandma and think I'd give my soul to have someone look like that at me. A human someone. I've had it a couple of times with dogs. I wonder how many people get both that and a good enough helpmate?
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