Posted by littleone on January 16, 2005, at 14:49:10
In reply to How Did You Choose Your Therapist?, posted by mair on January 15, 2005, at 20:41:14
I have a built in radar system that knows if someone is a good person or a bad person. It's rarely failed.
I hooked up with my first T through a referral from some mob and he came up as bad bad bad on my radar. I quit him after a while and later found out that he wasn't a very ethical T.
I scored my second T through a referral from my GP. He also came up sort of badly on my radar, but it was confusing for me. I wanted to claw his eyes out (which isn't a normal thing for me). I think there was a lot of negative transference there. I stuck with him for 9 months, but even after all that time, he didn't have a clue about me and I was getting nowhere. I tried to increase the frequency of my sessions, but he wouldn't let me. Also, he had only been a T for a year or two. I think I'm too tough a nut for him at this stage of his career.
So I went back to my GP for another referral to my current T. He instantly came up as a good person on my radar. Which is funny because he scared me to death at our first session. He is a real behaviouralist and was a like a drill sergent. Which would normally be enough to send someone running. I guess I was happy to find a good person on my radar.
I used to work at a company that gave financial advice to people. And part of my job was to save the advisers from bankruptcy so they could keep advising. It really tore me apart to have to be so hypocritcal. So a big thing for me when choosing a T was to find someone who had their own life together and successful relationships and whatnot.
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