Posted by mair on January 4, 2005, at 21:45:35
In reply to Re: Idealizing » mair, posted by alexandra_k on January 3, 2005, at 16:41:38
I wanted to respond sooner but I was chased off the computer last night before I could finish a post.
I think what you've described is another way of analyzing anger, which to my way of thinking is part of the cost/benefit analysis we all have to engage in here from time to time. I don't disagree with you at all but it struck me that it sounds like you're generally assuming that the anger is misplaced.
Most (admittedly not all) of the time when I've been angry about the administration of the site, I've felt my anger was justified. I guess what I was talking about is what you do with that anger or how that anger affects your on-going participation on the site.
But it is complicated. Who we are probably informs what sorts of things operate as triggers, and I think the administration of this site is a breeding ground of triggers. And even when I do get angry or frustrated, I can come up with any number of rationales for not allowing that anger to escalate to the point where I feel that I need to separate myself in some permanent way, or as with some ex-posters, where I feel that i have to take some action against Bob.
And it is strange talking about all of this as if Bob isn't here - maybe it's not the kind of thread he'd pay attention to. (;
Mair
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