Posted by Dinah on January 4, 2005, at 12:11:35
In reply to Re: Maybe I'll tell him, but...., posted by Joslynn on January 4, 2005, at 10:38:20
I've told so many people, and meant it, that it's perfectly normal, nothing to be ashamed of, and that they should disclose or not disclose whichever they choose. If they choose not to they can just enjoy it and let it go. If they choose to disclose or if it becomes a problem they can disclose, and a good therapist will treat it respectfully.
Yet, it seems different when it's me. First of all, I really am ugly and poorly groomed, and I know his first reaction would be a recoil, even if he realized I didn't really want him.
Second, well... I'm not a woman, and it's not right for me to have sexual feelings. Although I suppose you don't have to be a woman to have sexual feelings. I remember the lawn sprinkler...
Oh well. It's no big deal either way, I suppose. The only big deal is that I'd be keeping something from him. And this wouldn't be the first thing. I never mentioned his nose picking, for example. Or the fact that I'm worried that his wife is young enough to still have a baby. Some things are better left unmentioned.
poster:Dinah
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