Posted by alexandra_k on January 1, 2005, at 15:21:25
In reply to Re: Idealizing, posted by Toph on January 1, 2005, at 15:07:59
>what's the difference beween trust, dependence and idealization?
Hmm. My guess would be that trust is about trusting that their intentions are good, that they are competant etc. Trust is something that can be rightly placed, or misplaced.
Dependence is about needing or relying on something. Dependence can be helpful or unhelpful.
Idealisation is about setting the object up so that the flaws are completely ignored or severely minimised.
The trouble with idealisation (or at least my experience of it) is that it tends to be followed by devaluation. Once the idealised object falls short of your expectations (as it invariably will seeing as nothing is perfect) then you devalue the object and minimise or disregard anything of value while overemphasising the negative aspects.
And thus a love / hate cycle is born :-)
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