Posted by pinkeye on December 27, 2004, at 19:02:09
In reply to Missing T so much, dilemma - long, posted by LG04 on December 26, 2004, at 18:17:13
Hi LG,
I have gone through a similar thing with my ex T.
I had to move out of my country after some time of therapy and missed him terribly for 2 years. I still miss him and talk to him in my mind by myself. In my mind I discuss all issues with him still.
I don't know of a good answer to tell you. It still hurts me and I miss him and wish he is there. But he is not - that is the reality and it sinks in after some point. And you just have to accept it. That is as best as it could get. That he or she is jsut not going to be there for you - they will probably care for you and like you, but can never be there for you as much as you need them to be.
Email communication helped me a lot - though after sometime, he stopped replying regularly and that has started hurting. So now, I have told him that I am going to stop writing to him - because it hurts too much to write and not receive a reply.
Anyway you look at it, it turns out to be very complicated at the end.
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