Posted by gardenergirl on December 27, 2004, at 16:03:03
In reply to Re: Missing T so much, dilemma - long, posted by rockymtnhi on December 26, 2004, at 21:55:05
It seems terribly difficult for you and your T right now. I think the telephone is a very different way of communicating. It does give you some cues that you don't get via email or writing...the way the voice sounds, tone, pauses, etc. But it's not face to face. You and your T had such an intense relationship, I think any change to the way you communicate is bound to complicate things.
I wonder if perhaps instead of a break, you might try communicating via writing or email? Maybe this would decrease the intensity of the exchanges and allow you both time to process and edit if necessary. Just a thought...
And I'm sorry your appointment didn't go well. Can you tell us about it? Perhaps a break is indicated. Perhaps instead, you might consider approaching this therapy go-round as therapy-lite? Maybe go in with a specific and focused issue to work on...one that is a problem but not so serious and intense. Kind of like a trial run. If that goes well and you and the T feel it is indicated, then you could go deeper. Taking a break is another good option, but I am concerned that you might feel unsupported. Of course we are here, as always.
Good luck.
gg
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