Posted by judy1 on December 21, 2004, at 13:50:44
In reply to Re: Interesting dilemma » judy1, posted by LG04 on December 21, 2004, at 0:45:05
thanks for your post- it was really helpful. You and I have a lot in common with our relationships with our therps (my pdoc was my therp also). May I ask if it ended because you moved? Mine ended because my pdoc (who's 100 miles away)felt he couldn't effectively treat me- especially when I got manic- at that distance and sent me a termination letter. I freaked out- I have lots of abandonment issues and was triggered. So I did what you are doing- phone sessions for about a month- I alternated between being furious and crying. it actually helped a lot, I just got exhausted and finally reached acceptance. Anyway I did try to find another pdoc, but I wanted that same type of nurturing relationship and couldn't find it. I did/do have a psychologist who's wonderful, but I just don't feel I need her right now. All the pdocs did were med checks- ten minutes in and out- and I honestly felt like a statistic to them.
It's been about 8 months since I've been in contact with him and I truly feel ready to pursue a different relationship with him. I also got the 'you can call me anytime' type of thing, but of course it meant touching base and not asking for therapy.
Best of luck with your new therp. It sounds like you don't expect to have a similar relationship with her so you won't be disappointed. I guess that's where I differed from you, I really wanted something similar.
take care, judy
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