Posted by peacefeline on December 21, 2004, at 2:26:54
In reply to Re: Planet Clueless, posted by Shortelise on December 20, 2004, at 21:56:17
My brother is bipolar and has schizoaffective disorder and social phobia. He currently lives in a care facility. My mom felt he was to blame for all of it. She was very well-versed in all sorts of medical & psych things, but in this one case she had a big blind spot. I think she was pretty much a narcissist & her neglect of us most likely set up my brother for problems later. So I think she felt, on some level, uneasiness about whatever part she played in those problems, and dealt with it by blaming him. She wouldn't even let him call her, saying it tired her out too much.
But I was in therapy for several months before I understood the problem with that whole line of thinking. I kinda bought into it, just from not having given it very much thought. My T pointed out how my brother's behaviors are all very consistent with his diagnoses. And of course, then I felt lousy for buying into the "it's his own fault" routine. Live & learn, I guess.
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