Posted by Aphrodite on December 20, 2004, at 12:31:53
In reply to aversion therapy, posted by rainbowbrite on December 19, 2004, at 22:00:11
Welcome, Rain!
I had multiple counts and differing degrees of csa from ages 3 to 14 from inside and outside my family. My reaction as a young adult was to absolutely recoil. I am now married and in my 30s, and it's still haunting. I am sometimes afraid, sometimes feeling guilty -- the commonality is that it is rarely without some element of flashbacks and pain. However, I do love physical contact -- hugs, pats, hand-holding, etc. It's the actual "act" that's gut-wrenching.
After a year of therapy, I am just now beginning to talk about it. Somehow, just getting it out I think heals so that you're not held hostage in an isolated cell by the memories.
I have a male T, and it is my opinion that the sex of the T does not matter -- it's the soul. They have to be gentle, trustworthy, and empathetic. If not, run for the hills! However, if you have had positive experiences relating to a particular sex (parent, teachers, friends, etc.) over the other, it might be helpful to start there first.
Hope you keep posting.
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