Posted by Pfinstegg on November 21, 2004, at 19:57:42
In reply to Re: I was thinking of Pfinstegg too . . . » Pfinstegg, posted by Aphrodite on November 21, 2004, at 6:49:04
Yes, thank you- it IS wonderful to have a life-affirming event in the midst of all the things which are going on with me! It sounds as though you've really got most of the parts into the therapy sessions- even the hurt, pre-verbal tiny girl. I've got one, too- as well as all of those others who are angry and distrustful, but are somehow starting to feel that they want to be in there with him, and perhaps have a better experience in the future than they did in the past. We try to allow the very young girl to be there by pre-verbal means of communicating. For example, he wants to know if she's willing to look at him- every part of him- and say what this makes her feel. The language we use gets very simple, and sometimes we scarcely use any- it's more glances, awareness of body posture and tones of voice- his and mine. (he will use all sorts of inflections for "mmm"! He will often try to read my emotion on my face, and ask, in very simple terms, whether it seems right.
He did say, recently in a light, rather humorous tone, that he might be asking in the future for my permission to include something about our work in the book. He said that he always shares what he has written with patients, and will not publish anything unless they agree that he got it right. If the book comes out, all the Babblers (but no-one else) will recognize me instantly, I think!
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