Posted by Pfinstegg on November 21, 2004, at 19:36:37
In reply to Re: Pfinstegg? Things OK? » Pfinstegg, posted by daisym on November 20, 2004, at 22:49:37
It was good to hear from you, and to hear how open you are able to be with all the parts of you. It must be an extraordinary situation to try to have a healthy relationship (you trying- she doingthe same as always) when she doesn't know what your father did. Do you think that, on some level, she does know? If I remember correctly, he's still alive, although they are not still together. I'm not advocating telling her, of course, as that can make a very difficult situation even worse, but I wonder if some of her need to and "make everything all right" comes from the fact that she may know something about it in her heart of hearts.
I'm kind of going along in the same way as you: some of the feeling states we are dealing with are so painful, and yet I, too, am no longer suicidal. The future looks hopeful- it's just getting through those incredibly painful sessions, day after day! My analyst would not say that cutting down or having a break are good ideas. he counts on daily sessions to allow all the *parts* to be there- even those which would prefer not to be.
I love how my analyst works, and I love how your therapist works, too. I'm assuming that it's because he is so gifted that he is able to help you experience all the pain so intensely. Not that I've gotten there yet myself, but I do think the time will come when we will both begin to feel that we are healing from our severe traumas. My analyst says, "I wish this had never happened to you - it's a damn shame- but I'm confident we can find a way to help you heal from it"
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