Posted by daisym on November 18, 2004, at 1:06:23
In reply to Re: And now paranoia... » daisym, posted by Skittles on November 18, 2004, at 0:42:48
Thanks, I certainly get the support I need back from everyone.
Sometimes I think therapists don't realize how invested we are in things. So they make changes without thinking it matters.
But you are right, my therapist is very, very careful about that. He moved some furniture around last year and warned me. I was insulted for a little while -- did he really think I was so fragile I couldn't handle a new couch? But he was right, it was better that I expected the changes, because it threw me a little. He also has 25 years of experience at this...
Remember, you need to risk a little to gain a lot. So asking about something might allow you to ask about something else. Like: "I noticed your office isn't confirming appointments anymore. Or, was this just unusual, because I also noticed that you didn't respond to my phone message, so maybe you didn't get it?" Just take a breath and say it. You will feel better. She isn't just going to kick you out without any warning. Believe me, it is my biggest fear. But on my more rational days, I know this isn't how it is done.
You could also tell her this is a fear of yours. I finally did that and now we have a whole way of figuring out what reassurance I need so I don't freak out completely at times. It was worth admitting this, even though I felt tremendously stupid about it.
Hugs from me.
Daisy
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