Posted by Aphrodite on November 13, 2004, at 6:46:44
In reply to Hello, I'm Daisy and I go to therapy a lot..., posted by daisym on November 12, 2004, at 17:24:41
Remember that in real life, I am a very guarded and private person to begin with. That said, I would caution you to be very, very careful who you share things with. I know how hard it is to be alone in all of this and how freeing it would be to connect with others on this issue, but if they haven't been there themselves, they're simply not going to understand, and you're going to get hurt. If before I went to therapy, someone told me a similar story to my own, I would have raised an eyebrow too. It's not that I am judgmental or unsympathetic, I simply didn't understand what the process was like. So, I believe even the most well-meaning of people who haven't been through it themselves are not going to give you the kind of feedback you need.
I suggest stick with your therapist and your friends at Babble. You will be understood. Perhaps later, when you're stronger, you can use your radar and decide if perhaps some of your friends can be educated and directed in how to support and understand your situation. For now, I wouldn't risk it and add to your already too full plate.
Again, I want to reiterate I am overly cautious in interpersonal relationships, so my words of advice should be taken in that light. I know that sometimes it is very worth is to take a huge risk like confiding in a friend because the payoff could be enormous.
I know the isolation can be devasting. Boy, do I know. Lean on your therapist. Take him up on the offer.
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