Posted by littleone on November 8, 2004, at 15:28:12
In reply to Re: How things mean different things to diff people, posted by alexandra_k on November 4, 2004, at 21:18:24
> Hey there. In my experience topics definately do get avoided, and if I push I am given an 'it's for your own good' type explanation.
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> Best I can figure thats because T is uncomfortable and needs some time to think.
I couldn't help but laugh at this alexandra. I love it. It rings true so loudly for me that there must be *at least* a grain of truth in it. Thanks for that insight.
> I figure that touch is something that can be interpreted in a variety of ways and your T may be worried about there being some confusion, or there being some confusion AFTER it happened - especially if you have been abused in the past.
I think a number of you misinterpretted what I said a little. I should probably clarify that I have a desperate yearning to touch him, but I could never actually do it. I have a real aversion to touching. Even if I brush fingers with someone while handing them a pen or some money or whatever, I shudder with revulsion. Which I always thought was kind of strange considering I hadn't been sexually abused in the past. I think the main cause of this is the fact that my mum and dad *never* touched me (ie no hugs, kisses, pats on the back, normal loving family type of touching). I guess I never learnt to like that sort of thing.But even that explanation seems pretty lame considering the intensity of my revulsion. I guess there's more to it than that.
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