Posted by Aphrodite on November 6, 2004, at 8:16:20
In reply to How things mean different things to diff people, posted by littleone on November 4, 2004, at 20:45:19
> On second thoughts, I do have a question. Do many of you have experiences in therapy where you raise something, but your T won't really talk about because he thinks *you* aren't ready to talk about it? Either he has said that outright, or you just get that impression because he so neatly sets the subject aside.
My T has stopped me from discussing difficult things before, not because he doesn't want to hear them, but because he thinks the timing is wrong. Sometimes if I'm feeling really unstable and I keep revisiting some past event, he wants to stop swimming in the misery and do some kind of present grounding exercise to help me function. Or, if we don't have much time left, he'll gently guide me to put it on the agenda for the next session so we'll have enough time. Usually it's a struggle for him to discern whether talking about certain hard subjects is going to be helpful or cause me more distress.
I'm sorry your T did not take your words in the way you intended them. I thought it was a very sweet sentiment. Maybe you can try again to explain.
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