Posted by gardenergirl on October 24, 2004, at 14:22:12
In reply to Re: What kind of attachment do you have? » daisym, posted by Pfinstegg on October 24, 2004, at 12:24:47
I would say I am securely attached to my T. It's a good feeling. I haven't felt a great deal of fear about him terminating me or being too much for him to handle. I did have an issue with worrying about him being disappointed in me when I disclosed something I had done and regretted. Intellectually, I knew he wouldn't be, but the shame I felt was so strong I projected it onto him. But it wound up okay. (I still would LOVE to know what his own internal feeling about it was, but then again, I also believe he doesn't withhold from me, so that's always my dilemma.)
I once said something to my mother about therapy and she responded with her usual criticism/alarm saying I was too dependent on him. Uh, Mom...that is supposed to happen. That is good. At least for now. So I don't talk about that aspect much. Even with the friend I have who also sees him. Either she is much more removed from the relationship or perhaps more conflicted about it, because she didn't seem to resonate with it when I mentioned it.
So that's just one thing I save for Babble and nowhere else.
gg
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