Posted by Pfinstegg on October 24, 2004, at 11:59:32
In reply to Leaving is so hard to do!, posted by daisym on October 24, 2004, at 1:16:18
Oh, excellent topic! I have a very hard time leaving each session; in the beginning, it was so bad I began to dread leaving the moment I walked in! It's better than that now, but it's still a big heart-ache. he says lots of good things to try and help, such as, "we are only interrupting temporarily- we will always be continuing tomorrow". Recently, he asked if it would make it easier if we made a point of bringing me back to my adult self with a few moments of conversation. We have been doing that, and it does help, although, of course, the adult me mostly wants to talk about how the ending feels completely permanent to the younger *me's*! Still, that does give me a more balanced view, and makes leaving a bit easier. He also offered to shake hands at the end of each session: *I* thought that was a good idea, but told him that the *girl* didn't agree, and felt she needed to wait until touching his hand felt safe. He said, "I think the girl appreciates that you are respecting her feelings." I also deeply appreciate how well he understands all these feelings, and how he has tried to make things a bit easier if he can. So, we have a mutual "see you tomorrow" or "have a good weekend", and I manage to get out the door. With him, there aren't phone calls outside of the daily sessions, so I need to do my best to carry his presence inside of me until next time.
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