Posted by Skittles on October 23, 2004, at 15:26:08
In reply to Re: I don't like these questions » LittleGirlLost, posted by daisym on October 23, 2004, at 2:59:15
Daisy, I'm so envious that you've been able to actually TALK about this with your T. I can't bring myself to call mine between sessions or even utter the words, "I need you." Probably because I've been fighting the feelings myself. I think my way of giving in a little was to ask for more than 1 appointment each week. I so very much want to tell her more about how I'm feeling, but I'm afraid that it would make me more vulnerable and open to more chance of being hurt. Could you share any specific response your T has given you when you've shared these things? I'm sure his words were perfection and maybe hearing about it would help me build my own courage.
The way you related your need to those of children really hit home with me. My dear friend has THE most precious little four-year-old boy. Last week, when we dropped him off for Mother's Day Out he said "Mom, I'm going to give you a really big kiss so you remember that I'm here and that you have a son." Later that evening I kept him while my friend went to bible study. As soon as she left, he told me "I have a hard time when my Mom's gone so I need you to hold my hand really tight. And don't let go until I say I'm ready, okay?" I had to hold back my tears because I envied this beautiful child who was so much more comfortable with having needs and asking that they be met than I think I could ever be. I held on tight for 4 hours until Mom got home.
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