Posted by 64bowtie on October 19, 2004, at 15:10:21
In reply to Re: groups?, posted by pegasus on October 18, 2004, at 11:47:57
...you found someone at the group, still going to the group after dealing with their many demons, and are simply sharing the process they went through, sorta quid pro quo, in hopes of getting addtional clues on how to fine-tune their new recovery skills? What if I predict you will find such people? What if you could do all this work objectively, portraying yourself as another person with the same problems, conflicts and concerns, producing an objective view of yourself for you to study???
Find a 12 step program that has folks you can relate to without relating your real name. I went to an Adult-Children-of-Alcoholics 12 step convention meeting in Santa Monica, CA. several years back, where a character-actor-stunt-man from the movies shared. He was waring bright red, finely built, Cowboy Boots, with his pantlegs tucked into the tops. He identified himself as "Red Foot". It was clear to all that his feet looked definetly "red"! That's all he was gonna commit to as far as identity, but we accepted him and listened carefully (and respectfully) to his sharing.
New York City is really many many cities in one; each block is almost a city in itself. I imagine a subway ride can make you pretty invisible to those you might be concerned able to sabotage you by telling your secrets. What if I had changed the story to black boots, thus he announcing himself as "Black Foot"? Then "Red Foot's" identity would be additionally obscured forever.
ACA, CoDA, ACoA, are all offshoots of the Alanon program started by Bill W's wife Lois W back in the late 30's, for the pupose of helping other survivors of alcoholism like herself. Starting out with Alanon meetings might surprise you how they can give great direction and help you decide what other of the 200-plus 12 step programs might work best for you. Mine was ACA. I however, I enjoy visiting AA speaker meetings, and being like a "fly on the wallpaper", enjoying hearing about oldtimers and their success stories.
Hope this can help you with your particular puzzle...
Rod
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