Poet?

Posted by Dinah on October 12, 2004, at 7:30:45

In reply to Re: Poet, how are you doing? » gardenergirl, posted by Poet on October 11, 2004, at 15:28:54

It seems like this is one of those moments where there's a chance to take a relationship to a new level.
When she takes you back warmly, it's a trust building opportunity.
When you contact her and ask, it's a trust building opportunity.
What you did wasn't shameful. Or if it was, I've been shamed at least half dozen times. I think it's a reasonably normal part of therapy. And therapists know that. Didn't she reply as if she knew that?
But even though it wasn't shameful, it's in the past. It is now part of your history. You have an opportunity now to write your future history. You can choose whether you do something you'll later be proud of. Calling her would take a lot of courage, and that would be something to be very very proud of. There's no need to have an awkward phone conversation. Just call her and leave a message when you know she's unlikely to be able to answer. Something like
"Hey. It's me, Poet. I'd really like to talk about what happened. Can we make an appointment to do that?"
I'd be proud of you, not only for showing the courage to go after what you want, but also for taking the leap of faith it requires to deepen a relationship. Don't you think that's something to be proud of?
You can always talk about the rest of it when you get there.

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I quit therapy- Feeling Very Sad (Long) Poet 10/7/04
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Re: I quit therapy- Feeling Very Sad (Long) » crushedout Poet 10/9/04
Re: I quit therapy- Feeling Very Sad (Long) » Dinah Poet 10/9/04
Emotional confetti » fallsfall Poet 10/9/04
Re: Emotional confetti » Poet fallsfall 10/9/04
Re: I quit therapy- Feeling Very Sad (Long) » Poet gardenergirl 10/9/04
Poet, how are you doing? (nm) gardenergirl 10/11/04
Re: Emotional confetti » fallsfall Poet 10/11/04
Re: Poet, how are you doing? » gardenergirl Poet 10/11/04
Re: Emotional confetti » Poet fallsfall 10/11/04
Re: Emotional confetti Annierose 10/11/04
Re: Poet, how are you doing? » Poet gardenergirl 10/11/04
shame just plain jane 10/12/04
Poet? Dinah 10/12/04
Re: Emotional confetti Poet 10/12/04
Re: Emotional confetti » Annierose Poet 10/12/04
how are you doing? » gardenergirl Poet 10/12/04
Re: shame » just plain jane Poet 10/12/04
Dinah Poet 10/12/04
Re: Dinah crushedout 10/12/04
Re: Courage Annierose 10/12/04
I know that you can do it, even though it's hard (nm) » Poet Dinah 10/12/04
sending courage and positive vibes.... shrinking violet 10/12/04
Re: Courage antigua 10/12/04
((((Poet))))) how are you? any update? (nm) shrinking violet 10/14/04
Left T message to call me- update when she does (nm) Poet 10/15/04
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Nevermind - Saw Thread Below (nm) mair 10/19/04

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