Posted by shrinking violet on September 24, 2004, at 19:07:33
In reply to Re: awkward sliences » Klokka, posted by Annierose on September 24, 2004, at 6:35:58
I'm the queen of silence. :(
My poor T...she doesn't know how to deal with me, really. She's a college T, so she's basically used to a lot of blather from clients. It's VERY hard for me to open up. I have a lot of issues around talking and not talking (a childhood stutter, the "children should be seen and not heard" mentality, etc). Most times, I have no idea what I'm supposed to say or talk about, or that what I'll say is stupid, or that it isn't what my T wants me to say, or (most often) I can't put what I feel into words (because I have no idea), and most of the issues I should be talking about are ones I very much want to leave alone. My mind goes blank too, a lot, at least when it comes to the deep stuff.
My T is great about talking....although she does it a bit too much sometimes. I've dubbed them "mini-speeches" and recently I've told her my thoughts on them, and we had a good laugh over it. She still does it, but now she catches herself and says "oops I'm doing a mini-speech!" Sometimes she'll ask me specific questions, which are most helpful. I wish I knew how to make her job easier, though. *sigh* We're working on reading a book together now, so hopefully that will help some.
I wish I could be of more help. Just know you aren't alone.
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