Posted by Toph on September 24, 2004, at 9:54:49
In reply to T discloses reason for termination, posted by alexandra_k on September 20, 2004, at 20:47:58
Alexandra, I think a good therapist should be able to work with you despite your relational difficulties. If not, they have done you a favor by terminating. I had a pdoc who was also my therapist for many years. He was older and helped me to accept my condition. When he retired i thought, ohmygod, he can't retire! Actually, his wife was dying of cancer, but even with this understandable reason, I couldn't help feeling abandoned. I fact, I still feel this loss 10 years later. But I digress. In termination the doctor asked me who I would like to see next. He recommended a woman with whom he had worked on an inpatient unit. Thinking that my therapy would be more well rounded with a woman therapist, I gave it a try. I don't know exactly what happened but it was a disaster. She had the sessions in her home which I felt was weird. Her husband would answer the door and I could hear kids playing in sessions. I somehow intimidated her and that may have had a lot to do with the feelings I had about my previous doctor's perceived abandonment. Anyway, one day I came to her door and, yikes, she had company over. She had forgotten our appointment. I took this as a sign that she really didn't want to work with me. She kind of seemed relieved when we agreed to terminate. I've found a pretty good pdoc with whom I've worked pretty well for 10 years now, so hang in there Alexandra, the right one's out there for you somewhere.
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