Posted by alexandra_k on September 20, 2004, at 22:51:32
In reply to Re: T discloses reason for termination, posted by Dinah on September 20, 2004, at 21:56:06
> They can get discouraged if they don't see that we're improving. My therapist used to mention that a lot, less now. I took his mentioning it seriously and prepared a list of all teh ways therapy helped me for teh next session.
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> Now I make sure I mention casually on a regular basis the benefits of therapy to me. And I make sure I mention the ones he agrees with most.That sounds like a nice thing to do. In my past my distress had to be extreme to be taken seriously and so in therapy I guess I have a tendancy to focus on my distress so that I can motivate clinicians to keep up with trying to help me. But then this has the opposite effect from what I intend.
I always figured that the facts that I showed up on time, showed respect and an appreciation for clinicians other committments, and treated them respectfully showed them that I valued therapy very much indeed. But I now realise that this isn't enough.
I just wrote to my x t and told her some of the specific things she did that I found to be helpful, and some of her personal qualities that I liked very much. I need to get better at this. Before it is too late.
Thankyou very much for your input.
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