Posted by 64bowtie on September 18, 2004, at 13:54:49
In reply to Re: reality vs fantasay (long) » lucy stone, posted by Dinah on September 18, 2004, at 9:03:50
Ms. Stone,
The crucial question I had to ask myself, which stopped the internal torment of the fantasies was, "Am I better off or worser off when I play out my fantasies?" This was never a cleverly couched assessment of my goodness or badness. It was like a business decision in its underlying objectivity. Did I do better right now today, or worser right now today, playing out my fantasies.
I won't taint this post with my testimonials. What I will do is say is that my original decision date was 24 years ago, and I sense my day to day is the best I can do nowdays. I today have no sadness nor grief since my day to day life is better beyond my expectations and beliefs, so I can't muster a tear of remorse, even aligator ones. I found freedom and happiness. ...and not by seeking "comfort" and "feel-goods". My way today is easier and less distracting and catastrophic without the seeking "comfort" and "feel-goods" I used to do.
Rod
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