Posted by daisym on September 9, 2004, at 18:37:38
In reply to Re: By the way » Dinah, posted by Poet on September 9, 2004, at 18:25:58
Sorry, have to do this. Not that I don't agree in theory with what has been said about males/females.
I've had a few on/off again discussions about sex with my therapist. The first time it was very hard
"so do you have orgasms?" BLUSH...
but he was pretty sensitive about it all. Mostly it was about what I was thinking and feeling before, during, and after. Now, remember, I'm opening up huge sa issues so sex has been even harder over the past year for me. (no pun intended.)We talked about giving and receiving and how it feels to be sexually selfish. Now this isn't something I've ever thought about before. Turns out I'm uncomfortable taking...because I'm not sure when my turn is suppose to end and his begins. It is a life-pattern, always meet everyone else's needs, and it spills over, even into sex.
Anyway...the times we've talked about stuff aren't usually mechanical (once) but much more about desire, or not, retraumatizing aspects, fantasy, etc. And I've learned tons about myself and the way I view sex. And I thought I was pretty enlightened.
I like Racer's idea of the locker room requirement. Not only for body imagine, but to hear women talk. I've been pretty sheltered, sometimes I think, "people do that?? HOW???!!"
:)
Good Thread.
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thread:388732
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