Posted by Racer on September 9, 2004, at 15:53:17
In reply to Sex therapy, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2004, at 13:15:26
I know nothing about this subject, so I'll be eager to learn how it turns out. Please update?
As for your T, it seems to me that, if it's strictly goal-specific expertise that you're getting, it really shouldn't impact your bond with him? It's not as if you're seeing someone to discuss your attitudes about men in general -- just getting some expert assistance in how to improve your sexual functioning. This may be my own bias, but I can't imagine a man can offer that to you! (My view of it is pretty simple: the men who would become sex therapists in the first place are probably the same men who would recommend you learn to do whatever their own sexual fantasies consist of. I'm pretty well twisted on the subject of genders, some times.)
For what it's worth, books like the Good Vibrations Guide, and Our Bodies/Our Selves can be very helpful. And I got much more comfortable and adept and all that when I did two things: learned to undress in a gym locker room and bought a vibrator. (Honest: raising my eyes to see what other women *really* looked like helped me more than anything else ever could. I think every adult should be required to spend at least one hour per month in the presence of about a dozen naked members of the same gender, just to improve self image.) The gym helped in a lot of ways, of course, beyond the locker room!
There was also another book, about men's bodies and sex, but I can't remember what it was.
Best luck, Dinah.
poster:Racer
thread:388732
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040905/msgs/388803.html