Posted by daisym on September 9, 2004, at 18:17:55
In reply to Emotional infidelity, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2004, at 12:55:54
This topic came up for me this week because I was angry with my husband and yet hesitating to talk about him in therapy. It feels so unfair sometimes, when he isn't there to defend himself. My therapist always says, "screw that -- this is YOUR therapy!" :)
But we also talked in therapy about the bond we are building and how much stronger it is for the younger parts of me. They trust our therapist to keep them safe and to be completely supportive. The adult is much more stand-offish. She thinks she needs to manage on her own and this need to connect or check-in feels just wrong. He asked me if I felt it was a betrayal, in some way, of my husband. I really don't think so. It is more about how I think of myself.
And as far as Babble goes...my hubby doesn't want to hear any of this. I can't imagine telling him, "and then he said...and then I said..." He is thrilled that I found a group to "converse" with. He just wants dinner when he gets home and a back rub later on.
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