Posted by shortelise on September 5, 2004, at 22:49:27
In reply to Re: more termintion angst » shortelise, posted by shrinking violet on September 5, 2004, at 19:00:27
SV I want to agree at how important it is to say it all.
If you were my friend and there was a big gap in your understanding of me, I would tell you. If you were my lover, my husband, my child - I would tell you.
So it doesn't seem a big leap.
On Friday I told my therapist that he didn't understand,that it was all verywell for him to sit on the other side of the room and tell me that this was not "re-traumatisation" but for me it IS. I KNOW he felt attacked. I also know that he can handle it. I impugned one of the tenents of his profession, of his "core" beliefs: a good therapist doesn't traumatise his patients. And I basicallly accused him of doing so.
But he is a therapist and it's his job to hear these things and deal with it.
If your therapist takes on your stuff, tries to take responsibilty for your feelings, she needs to understand that it's not what you need. You need to explore it on your own terms, not as it impacts her - you know that and she needs to know it. Therapists learn a lot from their patients about doing therapy.I am distracted from my mewling and puking. Thanks.
Take care.
ShortE
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